Relationships, especially romantic ones, are really hard! We just want to be happy, so we’re quick to enter into relationships that may not be good for us, in the hope that they will make us happy… but often, this doesn’t happen. Why? Because when you jump into a relationship before taking time to reflect on what makes you happy and what you need from a partner, you’re probably going to end up with someone who isn’t right for you, which means that your relationship won’t bring happiness—or any other benefits—into your life.
Don’t Date Just for the Sex
It’s common for people to enter into a relationship as a way of taking care of their sexual needs and desires. A little bit of goal-oriented sex doesn’t seem so bad in the moment, but it can lead you down a slippery slope that is hard to recover from. Here are some tips on how you can work on your self-confidence and patience, which will allow you the opportunity to meet someone who has the qualities that are just right for you!
Don’t be Afraid to Wait
Relationships take time and effort. Trust needs to be built and patience is required. If you want a deep, emotional connection with someone, then go ahead and start getting close. Otherwise, take your time and make sure the other person is on the same page as you before moving too quickly. This way both parties know what they’re signing up for.
Embrace Singleness
There is an amazing freedom that comes with singleness. You are free from all the stress of having another person’s needs be your responsibility. You have time for yourself and time for God. It’s ok to focus on getting your life together without distractions like a relationship and it can actually help you be a better person in the long run.
Ways to Avoid Meeting People at Parties
- If you know it’s a work party, tell your friends in advance that you’re not looking for any distractions. Maybe even look for something interesting to do so that your mind is focused on something else.
- When the conversation is starting to turn towards the romantic, tell them how you don’t want anything serious. Be upfront and clear about what you’re looking for. This way, they won’t take it personally and will be less likely to follow up with email or call after the party.
- Don’t let yourself get too intoxicated.
- And if you just can’t seem to stay away from people at parties, then find someone who has been through what you are going through and speak with them briefly. I had never heard of this until I spoke with my therapist. I still go to work parties because I need the social interaction and connection, but now when there is flirtation involved I’m much more aware of my boundaries.
ways to meet people without dating apps
1. Join a club or organization where you will be introduced to people with common interests.
2. Find a hobby, such as dance, gardening, or rock climbing. These are more physical and social than going to bars and can be a great way to meet new people while pursuing your interest.
3. Volunteering is another great way of meeting people with similar interests while giving back.
4. Expand your friendships! Put in the time and effort to deepen existing relationships by asking them about their lives, what they’re doing that day, or asking for advice on something specific.
It’s easy to think that someone we’ve been friends with for years is boring when really all we know about them is the fact that they like running and watch The Bachelor every Monday night at 9pm on ABC. It’s important to take the time out of our day for friends who may not be exciting but also give us support during difficult times. Sometimes it takes just one word from a friend to help lift our spirits after a tough day.
Friendships should never be taken for granted, because often times they’re the longest relationship we’ll have in life. If you have any suggestions on how to make friends without dating apps please comment below!
Put Yourself Out There Without Dating Apps
You know, in a way that’s different from how you’ve tried before. It might sound strange or difficult, but if you want to stop hopping from one short-lived relationship to the next it may be exactly what you need. At the very least, it will help you start developing more self-awareness about your own life and what really makes you happy. Here are some tips for getting started:
• Start going out more often—ideally without using dating apps. If you’re bored with your social life, chances are there is something wrong with it. Plus, studies show people who date regularly find their partner faster than those who don’t date as much.
• Try taking classes at a community college or night school, so you have an excuse to get out of the house and meet new people on a regular basis. And while we’re on the subject of meeting new people: Join (or create) an activity group that interests you!
